Fears of Recovering People Pleasers
Who Am I?
It makes sense to me that people are afraid that they’ve completely lost themselves.
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After years of taking care of everybody else and putting everybody else’s needs first, it starts to feel like you don’t know who you are at all. But in reality, there’s a good chance that you know exactly who you are. A lot of people are afraid that if they stop people pleasing, that they’re gonna lose that kind and caring and compassionate version of themselves that they DO like. But what actually ends up happening is they keep all of those beautiful characteristics and get rid of what they want to. The stress, the guilt the anxiety, and everything else negative that goes hand in hand with people pleasing. You start to be able to make and uphold boundaries. You start to live life the way you want to. You start to feel more free and in control and get rid of that guilt that seemed to follow you around.
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Above all else what I do is work with you to figure out what’s keeping you from being that version of you that you’re aspiring to be. Often times, people pleasing is playing an even bigger role than you ever imagined. Our bodies and brains are designed to keep us safe and functioning. But, sometimes what used to work for us in the past stops working. It starts getting in the way instead. It takes intentionality to discover what new ways of life can support your new reality. Everyone has a different origin story of how the people pleasing developed and exploring the root cause is only a part of the answer. The next part of healing usually takes some support from the professionals.
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If you wanna work on cultivating that version of yourself and you’re in Ohio, I would love to work with you. Feel free to head to the link in my bio and enter a contact form on my website to schedule an appointment. You can also call me at 216-302-1418
-Carley Trillow
